I can't.

If for the entirety of your life all you have been told is 'You can't wear this, you can't do that' it kinda gets stuck in your head. I spent years and years pretty much living in black clothes because I was once told it was slimming. I get asked all the time since starting this blog 'How do you have so much confidence?' I also have a lot of really beautiful, kind and intelligent women saying 'I wish I could wear that' and I am like YOU CAN However I know that it really isn't that simple. I was exactly the same with my attitude about what I could and couldn't wear and about how I viewed my self image. Here is a caption from one of my first ever posts 

" In all honesty I don't follow fashion as much as my other friends mainly because I don't think I could pull any of it off. It was then that I came across a number of blogs where girls of all sizes write posts of themselves in fashionable and beautiful clothes. They talk about body confidence and being happy in their own skin. I know that is one thing I am not. " 

Reading that now it feels like I don't know who that person is, when did I go from hating my body to proudly loving life wearing bikini's crop tops, skinny jeans and prancing round photo shoots? I can only say that it has taken time and I want to advise any girls, that this will not happen over night. In order to change the way you think and see yourself means you have to actively be involved in rejecting these rules that you are told you have to live buy. Here are some of my tips on how to improve your confidence and self image issues.








Finally be nice to yourself, if you aren't happy with your body shape, weight or anything, talk to friends, think of ways to positively go about losing weight, join an exercise class that you enjoy, go with the girls to a dance class or for a nice walk when it's sunny. The only person who is responsible for the way you feel about yourself is you, and you are worth betting on and fighting for. No matter what you choose to do love yourself and your body for all the wonderful things you are capable of.

Here are some pictures of me a size 20/22 wearing lots of the clothing we are told we shouldn't or can't wear. Trust me If  I can do it so can you. <3

CAN'T WEAR CROP TOPS OR FLORAL PATTERNS 

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CAN'T WEAR LACE OR SHEER CLOTHING

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CAN'T WEAR KNEE HIGH SOCKS

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CAN'T WEAR A BIKINI

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CAN'T WEAR A TWO PIECE


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Remember you can do whatever you put your mind to. 

Callie xoxo