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Sunday, 29 December 2013

Resolutions.

Whilst cleaning up the remains of Christmas the other day I happened upon one of my old notepads on my book shelf. I am notorious for my note taking, I love making lists, organising planning and generally jotting so I always have them laying around. It just so happened that I found one from 2012, it was one of my slimming diary note pads. When I opened the book I saw that I had written a note inside: 

"17 weeks until Barbados Holidays!! Must behave otherwise will be massive fatty on the beach. "

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I had to take it in for a second, the person that wrote that felt very distant from the person that was reading it. I cannot believe that for most of my adult life I have talked to myself this. For the majority of my life I have spend too much time obsessing over my body, my dress size, my weight. I have spent so many years calling myself horrible names in order to push myself to be slimmer. I bet you are wondering what relevance this note even has to New Year resolutions, well it has everything to do with it. In 2012, like other people I made resolutions. I made a promise to myself that 2013 would be the year where I didn't obsess over my image, where I would love myself, quit dieting and start approaching my life and my weight differently. For the first time ever I actually stuck to it. Barbados came and went, I made it to the beach no lighter than when I started that slimming diary yet I had one of the most amazing holidays of my life. I came out the other side of 2013 with a different outlook on everything. I threw myself into blogging, I stopped reading body shaming magazines and tv programmes and starting reading body positive blogs. I stopped trying fad diets, I said yes to ever opportunity that came my way. 2013 was life changing. Even though I haven't really written my resolutions I encourage you to take a moment to think about what you want out of 2014 and realise that with perseverance that you can achieve what ever you want. Be it a new job,  a new hobby, new friends, even a new body remember that you can do it. I am not writing this post to attack any one who is planning on making a resolution to lose weight, or planning on not making resolutions at all. Life is so short and you have to do what ever makes you happy. Just promise yourself that you won't buy a dress just so you can fit into it. You can wear dresses and any size and you would still look beautiful. Promise yourself that you won't not wear that bathing suit over the summer because you haven't reached your goal weight. Promise yourself that you owe to you to love your body at any size. I don't know what 2014 holds for me but what ever it does, I am ready. I am ready to live every last minute of it. I hope you do to. 

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10 comments:

  1. I love this post. I too found a diary similar to yours a few months ago, and I was sad I was that dieting obsessed person a couple of years ago (and for all those years before it.) I'd stuck loads of photos in of myself when I was smaller to 'inspire' myself - more like torture myself. Congrats on breaking free from it! x x

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  2. Nicola-Jayne Ogston29 December 2013 at 14:48

    I love this post thank you for sharing it and being honest with us. I hope I can use your advice to change the way I feel and look at my body. I don't think I would have been cave to take a picture of myself in a bathing suit so I take my hat off to you :-D xx

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  3. Go girl! I wish people would stop giving resolutions such a bad rep. Maybe it's just the bitter betties on my Facebook page. I personally think New Years is just a time to reflect and work on things to be a better person. This year I'm really determined to take my butt to the gym. I saw your twitter post about doing it for yourself, and that's the truth. I'm 27, my body is showing me that I haven't taken care of it. I'm almost 240lbs. My knees are constantly popping, my back hurts, my boobs are the first to grow. I'm tired of being tired, physically and mentally. So this year I'm pushing towards losing enough to smile again when I look in the mirror and to be off the 12 pills a day I take for my blood pressure, and diabetes. All of which are reversible if I pay more attention to myself.

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  4. Oh I've seen some moaners too lol It's so true though what is wrong with wanting to improve various aspects of your life. I guess you don't have to do it at january but it feels like a good time. New year, fresh start. I think you are so right to want to work on health, I know i do! Good Luck with everything my love! xx

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  5. Thank you! You can do it, if i can you most definitely can. xx

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  6. Oh babe, :( I'm sorry that we did this to ourselves! Glad we are in better places <3 x x x

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  7. lovely post, and I can so relate to what you have said above .. not that I have been to a lovely exotic place like you have lol (not jel much ) haha x

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  8. Lovely post Callie, and a beautiful photo at the end!

    I think most of us have spent way too much of our lives hating and criticising our looks, and it served no useful purpose. So many women (and men) have punished themselves for not being a certain size or weight, but have not gained the desired look by putting themselves down! Breaking free from this is liberating and life changing and I think you have done an amazing job to get to the stage in your life where you are now.

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  9. I. Love. You!

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  10. Patricia Moral Solés30 December 2013 at 04:05

    Awww and this is why I love this girl, so beautiful and so powerful words, you are amazing, kisses from Miss Difusa xx

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