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Thursday, 26 January 2017

How to make Life Lovely


Hello everyone, and happy belated New Year to you. Gosh, I can't believe that we are nearly one month into 2017 and this is the first time we are chatting I've missed you all! I thought when planning my content before Christmas that my first post back would be some kind of 2016 round up or a post sharing with you my New Years resolutions, but to be honest, I don't really want to make resolutions this year. Setting un-realistic goals is so 2001 so instead this year I am working on simple, achievable goals and targets. So with that said today I am sharing with you my personal 5 goals to make every day a little bit, more lovely. All the clothing I am wearing in this blog post are from the plus size range 'Papaya' at Matalan who kindly collaborated with me to bring you this post. As you can see, the items are a little more colourful than my go-to but that is exactly what I want for my life this year, more brightness, more colour and more loveliness. So without further ado here are my goals for making my life lovely.

1. Making time for reading 

When on my honeymoon, throughout the day (when not exploring Mexico) Dan and I sat by the pool or at the beach and enjoyed reading our books for a few hours in the sunshine. It was so lovely to have quiet time and to enjoy the peace and I want to make that part of my normal routine, be that over a weekend or reading on my commute to work. I also read some empowering, business books that made me feel ready to take on 2017 and my goal is to include more of these style motivational books into my reading schedule. Girl boss mode is on!

What I am wearing:  Long line Floral Shirt


2. Work/life balance

Last year my work life balance was way off and by the end of the year I was both exhausted and unhappy. Blogging is such an important part of my life but, as you may know I work another full time job, meaning sometimes I can overwhelm myself with too much work and not enough play. This year I am going to work on a better work life balance starting off by finally going part time in my full time job to dedicate more time to my passion with blogging and my writing with Marie Claire. Secondly I I plan on taking time to switch off and learning to understand when enough is enough. Last year I found myself procrastinating a lot and that was because I was simply overworking myself and I was losing all my creativity. Forcing yourself to do work is counterproductive, so this time I am going to call time on myself, step away from my laptop and come back to it when I am in the right frame of mind.

What I am wearing: Ripped Skinny Jeans and Embroidered cold shoulder  


  
3. Positive Vibes, Positive Mind, Positive Life 

This one may seem pretty obvious but, you will be surprised just how much we let negative thoughts get to us and effect our life and those around us. Nearing to the end of the year, everything felt like it was going wrong, and I was in a constant state of sadness and anger and that reflected not just in my work life but in my personal life. When I flew off on my honeymoon, the moment I stepped off the plane, I felt a release of stress and that was because I told my mind, 'Right this is going to be a lovely, special, relaxing break for Dan and I. Our minds are powerful tools and if we surround ourselves with positive people, and particularly positive women we will see a change in ourselves. So, no more listening to Negative Nancie's, or thoughts about self doubt. Good Vibes only for this gal.


Item in image: Slogan T-Shirt


4. Be Bold 

As women we sometimes teach ourselves to shy away, to stay quiet and to not stand out, this is something plus size women in particular do because they have always been told that they are not good enough. Well I say no to all of that. Be bold, be colourful, stand out of the crowd. If you want to wear a dress over a pair of jeans (like I have in this look) do it, if you want to wear head to toe pink - go for it. We only get one life and I think we have to live it as authentically as we can.



5. Find time for yourself 

Last but by no means least, I am going to work on some more 'me time' this ties in with my work life balance tip a lot. Sometimes you need to give yourself some time to enjoy life in order to get those creative juices back flowing. Self care is important, so this year I want to make some more time to enjoy a hot bath with a face mask, spend one weekend of a month enjoying a Netflix binge on the sofa or going to the cinema with my hubs or my friends. Or even something as small as popping out for a walk and grabbing myself a coffee before work, all these small things will help to make my life a little bit more lovely and that my friends, is all I want for 2017.

What I am wearing: Khaki Printed Jacket 


Thank you Matalan who worked with me to bring you this post, I hope you do check out their new pieces they are really lovely! Tell me below what lovely things you want to bring into your life? 

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Tuesday, 20 December 2016

New Year Same Me.


2016 has been a wild year, one that has been full of ups and downs and now that the year is drawing to a close I am ready to end this chapter. Next week Dan and I are heading off on our Honeymoon  to Mexico and I cannot tell you how excited I am to be leaving London to spend two weeks in the sunshine with my boy. In terms of body confidence, I am really suffering right now, and I only say that because I feel comfortable enough to tell you lot. When my favs at Simply Be asked me to choose an outfit for Christmas and New Year for a post, I'll be honest I wasn't feeling myself, at all. Everything I looked at online was amazing but I just didn't feel great. I decided to express my feelings about my body image on Instagram and my gosh was I overwhelmed with the response, over 300 of you wrote kind words to me and I sat crying on the tube home at the overwhelming love from you all. The next day, I headed in store to the Simply Be on Oxford street and found this outfit, the gold skirt really caught my eye, it was so shiny and bright and when I put it on I felt like me again for the first time in a few months. Paired with the gorgeous off the shoulder velvet body and platform heels and I felt ready to take on the world. When I shot my look with my photographer, I spun around in the middle of the street with my skirt making a golden tornado around me and and I laughed for the first time properly in weeks. The lesson here is, there are times in life when you won't feel like yourself, there are times when you wont always love your body and that is okay. Your body is your home but who you are is right inside, so this Christmas, no matter how low you feel, find something that makes you feel special and wear it with pride, spend time with your loved ones and try to appreciate the blessings you have in your life. Yes I have a double chin in this photo, but I also have a huge smile and I will take the chins with the smiles any day and I urge you to to do the same.






WHAT I AM WEARING 


Gold Metallic Skirt - Simply Be (similar here)

Platform Heels - Simply Be 

Leather Jacket - Simply Be

Tortoise Clutch - Simply Be

*This post was in collaboration with Simply Be to share with you their amazing party wear, 



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Tuesday, 13 December 2016

Pleated Perfection.


Let me first disclaim that I shot these photos back in October, because like hell would you catch me outside without a coat on now. Winter is finally here and it's raining a lot, but Christmas is near and it is my favorite time, for some reason my moody automatically lifts as it draws closer. Shops dress their windows, lights glisten along the streets, mulled wine and hot cider becomes acceptable to drink and the year slowly closes to an end. Urgh I just love it and everything about it, so I am willing to forgive the miserable rain for some Christmas cheer. This oufit is a mix of Elvi and River Island Plus both of which are my favorite brands, the cut and finish on all their items are worth every penny but my favorite piece of this look has to be the skirt. Pleats are just so perfect on everyone and the midi length of this skirt is perfect for winter, although I won't get too much use out of this over Christmas as Dan and I are finally heading off to our honeymoon in Mexico. Bring on the sunshine and margaritas!




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Thursday, 8 December 2016

The friendship breakup


Breaking up with a boyfriend isn't something I have ever experienced, being that Dan was my first and only real partner, but I get the idea of how ending a relationship works especially having watched my friends go through many over the years. They can be pretty rough to deal with, especially when you have been together such a long time. But breaking up with a friend is something that most of us don't talk about. Friendships are much alike relationships, some even more intense than between two partners. Your friend is a person you share every minor detail of your life with, some you let in and tell your deepest darkest secrets too, ones you might not even tell your partner. They know about your faults, your insecurities your past and your present. When something bad or good happens, you know that your BFF is one of the first to be called, you enjoy sharing in each others joy, you laugh together, cry together, share experiences together, the love runs pretty darn deep. 

So when your friendship changes or ends this can be pretty hard going for both parties. Sometimes, naturally, friends drift apart, you start to talk less to each other, perhaps you start making new friends, trying new things, just becoming different people to the ones you both were before. When this happens the very glue that made your friendship stick starts to deteriorate and before long the relationship can become something so far from what is was to begin with.

There are a few types of friendship breakups, some that end naturally, with no discussion, and what you had just fizzles out, and some where things end really, really badly. Passive aggression, arguments back and forth on text, screaming at each other, saying spiteful, hurtful things, this can and does happen. Like all relationships, disagreement is natural but sometimes there is no coming back from what was said, and sadly sometimes there is no going back to what you once were.
Then there are friendships that end with no resolve, sometimes a friend can just phase you out, or even completely cut you out of their life, ignore your texts, avoid you, delete your entire existence, those can be the worst to deal with, because there is no real resolve. Social media makes ending friendships so much harder than ever before. Seeing 'Ex friends' on mutual friends Facebook page, tagged in photos can be tough, but nothing hurts like seeing old memories pop up of you and your friend together when times were really good. We are plagued with our past and this can cause terrible anxiety, it certainly does for me.

Of all the things I am anxious about in my life, the ending of past friendships is what is most difficult to deal with. Questions about who is responsible, where did it go wrong, why did it end?  These all run through my mind continuously. As a person, I have always needed validation, I need to be needed, I care so deeply that sometimes I overstep the mark into territory that perhaps is not my place to step. 

Are there things I regret about how I handled my friendships? Absolutely.  Was I at times not the best person or friend I could have been? Most probably. Sometimes I sit down and think that I am a terrible, awful, person. Maybe I can't keep friends, maybe I am too judgmental, maybe I am too sensitive...These thoughts whizz around my mind like a merry go round and leave me with a tight knot of anxiety in my chest. The battle I have with myself is hard, and it has taken me a long time to get over lost friendships. Sometimes I find myself looking through old photos, or listening to a song that sends me right back to a place in time where things were great and the guilt washes over, all over again. 

But the truth is, in the end it doesn't matter.  In life we will go through making mistakes in our personal relationships or become victim to others making mistakes, it's the circle of life, not one of us out there is perfect and that is bloody normal. Now, more than ever I am beginning to learn that some things are just meant to be, sometimes other factors in our life change who we are, the priorities we have change and the company we keep changes. It's all part of our individual growth and whether the path you are on is the right one, it is your journey to take. Unfortunately along the way we will lose people in our life, be that from the nature of death or the journey of our lives, this may sound like a load of philosophical shit but I truly believe that every single thing that happens to us, is perfectly timed and meant to happen. 

And If I could say one thing to past friends that I am no longer friends with it would be simply to wish them well, to say sorry for any bad blood, or anger that is held. There was a reason we were drawn to each other at some point in our lives and for the times we had I am grateful. Live and let live and all that malarchy.  For me, 2017 will be a year of new personal discovery and I have no doubt that I will f**k up and make some hideously bad decisions. And although my friendship breakups have been hard my past has taught me some real important stuff about myself and the friends I still have and I will always be grateful for that.
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